Identity crisis of a married Indian women

   Tum kerti kya ho...ghar mein kaam hi kya hai....meri mummy tumhare kitni help kerti hain....shaadi ke baad to aisa hota hi hai....n the list is endless...these questions n many more of such questions haunt the day to day life of today's middle class married women....

   On one hand they make house into homes....raise generations but still the delima is tum kerti kya ho????

 Life of woman changes drastically after marriage...she has to bear the burden of being good....and each and every passing second the burden of being good wife...daughter-in-law.....mother increases...to the extent that she forgets who she really was.....n believe me this does not happen in any third world....this happens in most of middle class Indian families. Her life gets struck in managing. ....professionalwork .....husband....kids......in-laws.....her own parents......this sandwich has many layers......and making all of them happy or let's say balanced takes soul out of her body... She is supposed to behave in a mature,understanding,caring ...she cannot get angry...or shout....say no for anything n always with a smile on her face.....beacause shaadi ke baad aisa hi hota hai...women are born with the hashtags of maturity...

   What has changed today........now families want educated...groomed.....pay packages wali girl...

   She then looses herself in between all this....her favorite food....her choice of clothes....her festivals....birthdays...nothing reflects her....it is the burden of being good which makes her a lost soul and then too she has no identity.Failure to acknowledge her efforts....denial to accept her sacrifices....lack of appreciation..this is what she gets....

This is the common situation with different magnitudes of identity crisis which women are facing.....She is for everyone but not for herself....she cannot claim her personal space  or life..

  In case one of u is facing this situation of lost identity I have a suggestion....my dear female friend....if u have fallen prey to such a life.....stand for yourself as no one ever will....celebrate yourself....unleash the tigeress  in u....they have  chained u because they know they can't handle u.....

Being  the woman...the creator....the nature....the beauty is identity in itself and not let anyone give or take ur identity from u....ur power is in ur hands do not let anyone govern you....let me remind u of a very old  song....dusaron ki jai se pehle khud ki jai karen...hum ko mann ki shakti dena...